Alcohol Use: Conversation starters

Helping a Loved One

Section #1

It takes courage to talk to a family member or friend about a drinking problem. These tips can help you get started.

Be honest about how you feel.

• “I care about you.”
• “I'm worried about your health. Drinking too much puts you at risk for heart disease, stroke, liver problems, and some cancers.”
• “Your drinking is affecting our relationship.”

Offer tips on how to cut back or quit.

• “Set a drinking limit. Stick to your limit by writing down every drink you have.”
• “Try taking a night or two off from drinking each week.”
• “When we go out, we can stay away from bars or other places that make you want to drink.”
• “If you are having trouble sticking to your limits, consider joining a support group or talking to a doctor.”

Support making a change.

• “How can I support you?"
• “Talk to me when you want a drink. Whenever you feel the urge to drink, you can call me instead.”
• “Let’s do things that don’t involve drinking – like seeing a movie or going for a walk.”